My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half; I really love him and we generally have a great relationship, but we definitely have our share of ups and downs.
The downs have mainly been due to fears and insecurities I have — it’s my first really serious relationship seeing how I’ve been a life long commitment-phobe! — so feeling this vulnerable is overwhelming and scary for me at times.
Since the beginning of our relationship I have had dreams about my boyfriend that range from neutral (we’re out with a bunch of friends but not really talking to each other) to terrible (he’s with an ex or I’m cheating on him with someone else).
I get the good one on occasion, but it’s rare. These dreams really mess with my head! It’s terrible when you wake up in the morning and that’s the first thing you think about!
What do I do to stop this?