It is always devastating when you find out that a loved one kept a secret from you. Here’s the story of our reader who preferred anonymity.
“I am a woman in my 30’s, from Abuja. I have found out something after my husband passed away.
I was raised by my grandparents, who told me they actually were my parents. They were trying to hide the truth from me, which was that my mother was a prostitute who gave me up at 3 months old. I never knew who my father was.
But I finally discovered the truth at the age of nine: that the “family friend” who occasionally came around was my biological mother.
Years later, I met a man who was a truck driver. He began courting me, he seemed like a decent guy, although he was older than me by almost two decades. We got married.
We lived in Abuja, we were not very rich, but led a calm and respectable life. We have two children together, one of them already graduated, the other one is still in school.
About a year ago my husband died in the road accident while driving the truck. It was then when my mother and I have met for the first time in many, many years (my grandparents who are still ailve have found her and invited to the funeral, for us to “get together”, as they later explained).
But my mother just stood at the grave dumbfounded, shocked, as she recognized the man on the photo (my husband) as the person who got her pregnant with me. And she is 100% sure, she even showed me a photo of them together.
He left her when she was pregnant, so he never really knew who I was.
I am still in a state of a shock and moral pain, and I can’t really bring myself to tell my children the truth. Should I, or should I not? How will I look them in the eye?
If I had found out the truth while my husband was still alive, what would have I done? Stayed with him? Had him arrested? Separated?
But I just want to say this: people can suffer through a trauma and still be a positive, productive person. I want this to be more of an inspirational story. If I’ve come through this, anyone can come through anything through the help of the Lord.