Most ladies see men as complicated people who prefer to spend most of their times thinking about sports, beer, and sex; and not about the women in their lives.
Some of the ladies have read different articles and rules on how to get their partners closer to them, and some have tried really hard to be hot and sexy to get affection from their spouses, but to no avail.
However, they have failed to find out what their partners’ wish they knew about them. If you really want to know your partner more than you ever did, here are some of the secrets you should learn about him.
Men may stray when needs aren’t met.If a man doesn’t feel loved and appreciated in his relationship, he may turn elsewhere for satisfaction. For one man, that may mean burying himself in work.
Another may develop a fixation on sports or video game, while some men cheat. To avoid these, partners need to work together to meet each other’s needs.
He is vested in you.Most men realize there is a lot to lose if a long term relationship goes sour. Not just each other’s company, but the entire life you have built together. If you are willing to work to strengthen your marriage, chances are your man will be willing too.
Men say I love you with actions.Some men prefer to express their feelings through actions rather than words. Your guy may say “I love you” by fixing things around the house, tidying up the yard or even taking out the trash – anything that makes your world a better place.
Men take commitment seriously.Men have a reputation for being afraid to commit. But the evidence suggests men take marriage seriously. It may take a man a longer time to make a commitment, because they want to make sure they are onboard for good.
He really is listening.When you are listening to someone talk, you probably pipe in a “yes” or “I see” to show that you are listening. But some guys don’t do this.
Just because a man is not saying anything doesn’t mean he is not listening. He may prefer to listen quietly and think about what you are saying.
Shared activities form bondMen strengthen their relationships primarily through shared activities more than by sharing thoughts and feelings. For some men, activities like sports and sex make them feel closer to their partner.
Men need time for themselvesWhile shared activities are important, men also need time for themselves. Whether your guy enjoys gardening, golf, or working out at the gym, encourage him to pursue his hobbies while you make out time for your own.
When both partners have space to nurture their individuality, they have much to give to each other.
Men let go faster than womenWomen tend to remember negative experiences longer and may have lingering feelings of stress, anxiety or sadness. In contrast, men are less likely to dwell on unpleasant events and tend to move on more quickly.
So while you may still want to talk about last night’s argument, your guy may have already forgotten about it.
Men don’t pick up subtle cuesMen are more likely to miss signals such as tone of voice, facial expression, and they are especially likely to miss sadness on a woman’s face. If you want to make sure your guy gets the message, be direct.
Men respond to appreciationShowing appreciation for your guy can make a big difference in the way he acts. Studies show that fathers are more involved in care-giving, while their wives value their involvement and see them as competent.
Guys are not always up for sexTo the surprise of many women, men are not always in the mood for sex. Just like women, men are often stressed by the demands of work, family, and paying the bills.
When a guy says “not tonight”, it doesn’t mean he has lost interest in you. He just means, he doesn’t want to have sex right then.
Men like pleasing their partnersYour pleasure is important to your man, but he won’t know what you want unless you tell him. Too many women feel uncomfortable talking about what they like and don’t like.
If you can tell him clearly in a way that will not bruise his ego, he’ll listen, because he knows he’ll feel good if you feel good.