Being in a relationship involves being committed to another person. It takes two people to give 100 percent of themselves to remain an alliance.
In the beginning, if you are on a social media site like Facebook, it is only natural to want to post "In a Relationship" as your relationship status to show all your 500 friends how happy you both are. But what happens when the relationship ends? What do you do then?
Here are four rules of etiquette to help you get through all the ups and downs of your relationship - online:
1) First and foremost: wait at least six months to post that you are "In a Relationship". Sharing your significant other to the social media world should wait. You could always write sweet comments on pictures or posts if you feel the need to "piss on someone's wall" to make it clear that they are "taken".
2) To be in a relationship, it takes two to tango. To walk away from a relationship, it may only takes one person. Rule number one for respecting yourself or another, NEVER break up with someone on Facebook. Don't be a coward in front of all your friends. It is cold, insensitive, and belittling. If you want out of a relationship, do not embarrass your partner by changing your status to "single" and shocking your partner and the world. If you must end a relationship, do it in an appropriate way WITH your partner, and let your status change slowly to no status at all.
3) Lose the "it's complicated" option. Once you make that option your status, you have just given a green light to 500 people to start asking your soon to be ex what is happening. When a relationship is having a rocky road, it can be extremely painful for the person who is still in love and wants to try and salvage the relationship. To air your dirty laundry publicly may cause more harm to your partner than good. No matter how hurt you are, or how badly you may want to walk away from the relationship, always respect your partner on Facebook. Remember, it is better to leave your status as is for a week, than set it to "no relationship status" (after you have appropriately spoken to your ex) than to cause emotional pain on someone else. If you are strong enough to walk away, than be strong enough to have respect.
4) Do not post "single" too soon after a breakup. Wait about one month. If you are trying to get the attention of one specific friend, just send a private message to alert him or her that you are back on the market.
5) If you cannot remain friends, delete your ex after a few weeks. You never want to "stalk" his or her Facebook wall and cause yourself more pain. You will only hurt yourself by doing this. Heal yourself and heal your heart. Take the appropriate steps you need to take to BounceBack.
Every action has an equal but opposite re-action. And public actions have a stronger, more fierce re-action. Your Facebook relationship status invites everyone to take a front seat to your love life. New breakups become open to public scrutiny. Suddenly the kid who sat behind you in your freshman homeroom is messaging you to ask if you’re all right. Meanwhile, you may not have seen him in 15 years. Can you imagine the obtuse people who are now questioning your ex? This will rehash the situation and cause more harm than good. When it comes to break ups on Facebook, always respect your ex. When it doubt, choose NO RELATIONSHIP STATUS over any other option.