I’ve been dating Tara for about six months now. We started things very slowly since I was busy studying for my medical boards when we met, so it was a convenient excuse to rebuff some of her advances when she asked to hang out. Things continue to go smoothly between us.
I never discuss my feelings for Tara, but I always treat her with respect, I keep things exciting, and I remain a challenge at all times and in all respects.
The problem is that Tara has an ex that has started reaching out to her again. He hasn’t said anything serious to her (yet), but he texted her this past weekend at midnight on a Saturday, when we were out at a bar with some friends.
She told me right away, said it was really odd that he got in touch, and says she hasn’t even bothered responding. These are all signs of a trustworthy woman.
Doc, the issue is that I’ve had this problem before in relationships. Exes always seem to find a way to mess things up and pull at the heartstrings of the woman I’m dating. I have no reason to worry right now, but I also want to make it clear to Tara that if her ex continues to contact her, and she starts responding to his texts, I’m not OK with it. It’s clear to me that he has a motive if he’s texting her at midnight on a weekend.
Any idea how I should approach this sensitive subject?