I’ve been with my guy for about a year and a half. We really love each other, but one thing that concerns me is his work history.
I am 23-years old and recently graduated college with a Bachelors of Business Administration Degree. My boyfriend is 21-years old, and currently works as a forklift driver for a factory.
When we started dating, I never thought that our relationship would grow to what it is now. In the beginning, he was working part-time doing general labor. After a couple months he was fired for shipping out the wrong equipment to a customer. It took him 3 months to find another job.
I helped him to do the applications and it was an application I did that he got the job for. After a couple months, he got fired from that job too.
Now, almost 6 months later, he has the same exact job through a different company. We always talk about our future together and would like to live together, but he still smokes weed! After his first day, he said that he would quit, but that only lasted a couple of days. My concern is that history will repeat itself and if it does I can’t bring myself to stay with him. Now, knowing that he won’t quit smoking, I’m hesitant to move in with him.
I am tired of preaching to him about why he should quit. It’s his life to live. When I bring it up he says that this is how I met him and that weed helps keep him calm. I tell him that when we first started dating I didn’t expect us to be this serious.
Doesn’t every girl have different standards for a fling and a potential lifetime mate? Personally, I don’t see what the big deal is here. I would never smoke weed knowing that I’m risking my job. Obviously he hasn’t learned from his mistakes. Is this something to breakup over? I don’t know what to do!