Why Couples Should Never Stop Kissing

Why Couples Should Never Stop Kissing

Do you remember your first kiss?

Why Couples Should Never Stop Kissing

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

When you’re young, kissing is such a big deal. I remember hearing (and ignoring) warnings that girls shouldn’t kiss a guy on the first date. That advice is now “don’t have sex on the first date”, but still, kissing plays a significant role in a new relationship. A bad smooch can even be a deal breaker.

What about down the line in a relationship though? I wonder, do people still passionately kiss even when they’ve been together for a while? Does kissing too often go on the backburner in marriage or even long-term dating relationships?

Last year, the Huffington Post published the results of a survey that found married couples kiss less than once a week.

“Nearly one in five married couples go without kissing for as long as one week at a time. And when they do finally lock lips, it will last no longer than five seconds for 40 percent of them.”

It sounds like these researchers found the root of a sexless marriage – or sexless cohabitation. If a couple isn’t even taking the time to kiss, then it’s fair to assume they aren’t making time for much else either.

“Kissing can be “more intimate than having sex” but is one of the first things to go in a long-term or sexless marriage.  When kissing falls by the wayside, it’s the first step to losing passion in a relationship. “

“Kissing is one of the first ways we connect sexually. And then over time it goes down. But there are some physical things that make kissing important. It decreases the level of cortisol, which is a stress hormone and it increases oxytocin, which is a bonding hormone. And that’s why, chemically speaking, kissing makes people more relaxed and builds connection. Chinese medicine says that the mouth and the tongue have a connection to the heart. So it’s the same idea. Kissing attaches people to each other.”

Apparently, kissing relieves stress and makes a couple closer. That sounds like a good reason to bring kissing back to a relationship where the frequency has fallen off, but how often should we kiss our mates? In her 29 Days to Great Sex blog, Sheila Gray advises couples to kiss for at least fifteen seconds each day. That seems short, but it’s longer than a quick peck and once you get into it, you likely won’t stop at exactly fifteen seconds.

Of course kissing doesn’t have to lead to sex. Personally, I find stand-alone kissing to be romantic. In fact, I have always wanted to re-enact that “Love Jones” scene with Darius and Nina kissing in the rain. Also, the scene in “The Notebook” when Noah says to Allie “It wasn’t over. It still isn’t over!” and Allie jumps into Noah’s arms and they’re kissing in the rain. Can’t forget that scene in Spiderman when Mary Jane is kissing him upside down…in the rain. (Clearly, I like the idea of locking lips in a downpour though my hair would never allow that type of spontaneity.) These movies all portray a fairly new relationship, but even if you’re in a long-term relationship you still may want to make time for kissing.

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