Have you dated a guy who appears to be fantastic on the surface (has a good job, is intelligent, attractive, treats you well, takes you on romance dates and the sparks fly)... but in your heart you would still wonder, "How do I know if he is really the right one?"
First, look at your life foundation and priorities before dating. Establishing what you believe is key to knowing if he is the right one. And the way to do that is to commit to learning and growing in wisdom.
Say you meet a guy you think is everything you are looking for because he is materially secure and treats you well during the dating stage of your relationship. Once things move toward commitment, you find he is taking you for granted, saying little remarks that are hurtful and tells you a few lies about his whereabouts. If you do not have a solid spiritual foundation, you will rationalize his behavior, telling yourself that he had an off day or he's under pressure at work and really doesn't mean to treat you badly.
Wisdom tells you his behavior is a huge red flag and is wrong. You need to leave. You know he is not the right one because you have the understanding of what love is and see this relationship does not match the truth. You think with your heart of wisdom in love.
How can you become wise about your choices in love?
You have to be open open to instruction and advice. You admit it... finally: you do not know everything about love and life. It is difficult to reach out for help, especially in an area where one is taught that love will come easily and naturally. Perhaps because you haven't met the right one, you feel like you've failed at love. That is simply not true.
Just because life has not gone according to your plan, that does not mean there is an absence of a plan. Listening to and application of godly, wise advice from those who display emotional and relational success is vital to knowing if he is the right one.
The benefit of wisdom is the capacity to see beyond the surface. If you make relationship choices based on what you think is right based on society's norms, you will be confused as to which direction to go. Confusion leads to disappointment in love and your relationship pattern will repeat.
Make thoughtful relationship choices. You do not accept dates from just anyone. You take the time to develop meaningful friendships with guys you are attracted to, not only by their looks, but their character, morals and values. You do not rush intimacy but instead look for the signs that he is a person of integrity and honor. Again, you think with your wise heart, not your rationalizations and not with your feelings.
It is never too late to attract the right one. It is not the quick fix one generally looks for, but it is a lasting solution that will allow you to see the right guy for love, commitment and marriage.