I accessed my daughter’s Facebook and discovered she is doing sexual stuff with her boyfriend. She’s only 15.
She has been going out with her 16-year-old boyfriend a few months. I just got a gut feeling about him from day one. What I read on her messages has shocked me, even though I know what teenagers do these days.
They’ve not had intercourse but she’s given him oral sex. How on earth do I broach this with her without admitting I invaded her privacy?
My wife says it was most likely mutual but because she’s under age we should report it to the police. I am wary and feel that will just complicate our relationship with our daughter and I don’t want to ruin his life.
What kids get up to sexually is always worrying for parents. The point of the law is to protect those under-age but it can be very heavy-handed in a case like this.
But you can raise your worries with your daughter without involving the police.
Something bothered you enough to make you go snooping on her Facebook page. Do now what might have been better to do then – talk to her about your worries for her, listen to how she feels.
Make sure she understands that she should never feel pressured to do anything sexually, anything at all, that she doesn’t find pleasurable and satisfying for her. So many girls are feeling pressured to do stuff their boyfriends have seen in online pornography and need to know they have every right to say, “No thanks.”