I'm a reader of your site. Please, publish my story so I'll know where I made mistakes. My name is Bola. I have been dating my boyfriend for 10 months already. So much has happened in the last 10 months.
First it was the struggle of making him to love me. It took him almost 2 months to utter words "I love you", even though he asked me out and we already were in the relationship. Next it was the struggle of getting used to each other. My boyfriend is usually emotionless. He believes that showing man's emotions is a sign of weakness. He's always concerned about his ego. He debases me, insults me and rarely does anything romantic.
I am rather independent woman (I have my own money), but he believes doing something for me or giving me presents is a very big deal. I'm a woman and I need to feel that I'm loved and cared.
I love him and I was hoping things would change. I even paid for all his expenses for 8 months. We decided to have a break for a week. During the break up, I met an old friend and I felt sympathy to him. He was single so I thought we could start something.
But I missed my boyfriend and I called him and we made up. I told him how I hung out with someone and how I could have dated this guy. After we made up my boyfriend became a better person but my mind was divided.
So I continued to date both of them. One day I lied my boyfriend that I went home, but I went to see my old friend. But my boyfriend followed me and the truth opened up. I felt so bad and I begged him to forgive me.
I've NEVER slept with my old friend. Though I was already in love with him, I had to let him go. Now here's the PROBLEM! My boyfriend accuses me of cheating everyday! Did I make a mistake by telling him about meeting another guy? Or why did he forgive me if he can't cope up with this thought? I feel like a cheap prostitute now, because that's how he sees me.
And as a result we just broke up, because I can't deal with someone who constantly accuses me. Where did I go wrong?