What if… for one moment you stopped holding on to the grudge you have against love? You hear so many folks talking about how “strong” they are because they are “independent.” Although independence is a sign of strength, we would argue that the courage it takes to love is a bigger sign of strength.
“Being hurt will never hurt as bad, as being loved feels good!” What if... you actually let go of that person that has made your heart so hard?
What if you stopped clouding your vision with the images of what you thought could have been, but never actually was?
What if Mr. or Mrs. Right keeps throwing you passes, but you keep allowing yourself to be intercepted by Mr. or Mrs. Wrong, all because you keep running the wrong routes!
What if you stopped blaming him/her for your unhappiness and started blaming yourself because you won’t let go?
What if you stopped being so bitter about your past or even your present and tried being optimistic about the future? Now fellas, there are a lot of you walking around here flexing and poking your chest out correlating the number of girls you “hit” with being an “alpha male” aka a real man.
Many of you close your eyes to the possibility of real love because you feel if you open your heart it may actually come with some additional accountability. You run away from your responsibilities because deep inside you fear that you may not be up to the challenge. Now what part of that spells “alpha male” or real man? Many would argue that one of the true tests of manhood is actually trying to love a woman the right way, going all in, and being accountable to her and your family! Now see that spells “alpha male!” What if you only attempted to embrace the role that we have been put on earth to fulfill?
With all that being true no one is going to convince me that we are better off without them (relationships) though! If you think you can sell me on that…take your best shot!! All I’m trying to do is encourage healthy relationships, not “perfect” ones. The relationships where the attraction is real and the love is pure. The ones where we actually get to know the person before we jump into a relationship with them. The ones where for a man it’s not a burden to provide and protect, rather it’s a badge of honor! The ones where women embrace being nurturing and supportive instead of searching for every fault in their man. The ones where the man respects his woman enough to put her on a pedestal for the world to see, and her happiness is his priority!
The ones where the men have earned (yeah you dudes need to earn it because having a penis isn’t enough proof) enough trust so that his woman knows that if you let him lead, he will lead you in the right direction! The relationships where if we bring a seed into this world we both will do whatever it takes to raise it the right way (none of this “I show up when I feel like it and give money when I feel like it type garbage”). The ones where fussing, fighting, and arguing are the exception and not the rule because we actually know how to effectively communicate! The ones where there is more selflessness than selfishness (yeah some of you think it’s all about you all the time). The relationships where even if it isn’t always perfect we always know that we have each others back. The ones where even if things don’t work out, we can’t even find it in our hearts to hate each other because the good far outweighed the bad!
What if… we got serious about this thing we call relationships and family? What if…men, we gave our women more attention then we gave our video games? What if… we settled our disagreements with conversation instead of confrontation? What if…the ladies expressed their emotions by loving more and fussing less? What if… men, you allowed her to be vulnerable in her love because she knows with every breath of her being that no matter what you will be there? What if… men, going home to your woman at a decent hour got you more cool points then you worrying about it being a sign of weakness? What if… Ladies, you stopped blaming the new man for how badly the last man treated you,? What if… Ladies, you let your independence be a part of your sex appeal and stopped expressing it in the form of a power trip.
What if… men, you “put it down” in such a way that when you made love (making love to the point that she is in her most vulnerable state) to her no matter how independent she claims to be, when you’re done and she lays her head on your chest, the proof will not be in her words, but it will be in her silence (if you don’t “get” that statement, you not putting it down enough)! What if… we stopped letting pride and fear pull us into these deep dark places of loneliness and bitterness. And Instead, we let love and accountability push us to a place of openness and happiness!?