It's a fact of life that sooner or later, we are going to have our hearts broken by someone that we love. When a relationship ends, we are left with an emptiness, a void, where there was once a person we were either dating or living with. When we are ready to get back into the dating scene, there are some helpful tips to help start a new relationship.
The number one thing you want to remember is that the rest of the world didn't break your heart, the one person did. It's important to remember that just because Fred cheated on you doesn't mean that Bob or Gordon will do the same. Just because Wanda ran off with the cereal factory tester doesn't mean that Betty will do the same. Keep in perspective that everyone else shouldn't pay for the pain that one person caused you. Don't jump from one relationship to another. It's not wise to immediately start dating after the end of a long relationship.
The rebound effect will most likely kick in and you could likely fall for anyone in the attempt to fill the void left by your former dating partner or spouse. Allow yourself time to heal before you date again. Start slow! Make dates that are fun and enjoyable, but where there is no pressure on you or your date for anything other than just enjoying each others company. Dates with another couple are a good idea because it gives the added benefit of not being alone with a date too soon.
If you are not ready to get serious with someone again yet, it's a good idea to make it clear up front that you are fine dating as friends, but that you want to keep it at the friend level. It's not a good idea to keep this to yourself and to lead the other person to believe you are more serious than you really are. Keeping dates on a friendly level after coming off of a broken relationship is beneficial because you get to know the person, and you can build your trust back up while continuing to heal from the broken relationship, and you can be sure you are not just dating on the rebound from the previous relationship. It takes time to learn to trust again and to love again. When a relationship ends it's natural to want someone else to be in your life.
Starting to date again is the first step in finding the person who is not only a good friend, but the one who understands you, who listens to you, encourages you, and believes in you. To begin dating again is the beginning of a wonderful new relationship.