Abusive relationships challenge our ability to take care of ourselves and leave us feeling victimized. It is important that you work on changing your victim mentality. Many of us complain that we are victims in our relationships.
By claiming that we are the victims we are giving up the power to struggle with the situation. As adults, we can be in toxic relationships with abuse, control, mistreatment, and misery, but are we truly victims? This isn’t meant to minimize the complex dynamics in toxic abusive relationships and the difficulty in dealing with them or the real-life circumstances that leave us feeling trapped because any decision is stressful and full of negative consequences. Answer these questions to determine whether you see yourself as a victim and have surrendered your power to take care of yourself:
Recognizing how you need to own your power to make choices for yourself is the key to getting strong enough to take care of yourself. It isn’t God’s will for you to suffer needlessly; if you must suffer, work on letting it be because you have taken a stand to take care of yourself.