Is your sex drive more slippery slide than roller-coaster ride? Check out if your daily routine is to blame.
Once a relationship settles in to long-term status, sex can become routine. When people get together, there's all this lust. It lasts up to three years, but then it disappears, which is normal. But how to beat boredom? Sex is meant to be fun; it's the way adults play with each other. So think about improvising.
If you're so exhausted you've lost interest in sex, perhaps you can blame your weekend lie-ins. You call it catching up on sleep, but experts call it a disrupted sleep schedule, and it plays havoc with your natural cycle, which, in turn, makes you tired, grumpy and in no mood for sex. Keep to a regular schedule, waking up at roughly the same time every day, and your libido will thank you for it.
Thanks to technology, we've never been more in touch with our friends, family and the world. But regularly taking your iPhone or laptop to bed with you, as 87 per cent of us do*, may mean the only hook-up happening is the one with the internet. Not only can it disrupt sleep, but focusing on your laptop means you're not connecting with your partner. What you're doing is avoiding each other. You're missing out on opportunities to create intimacy."So get in the habit of chatting before bed, and you're far more likely to connect between the sheets.
One or two drinks can blitz your inhibitions so you're raring to go. But more than that and arousal diminishes. As women's blood alcohol levels increase, it's going to take them longer to have an orgasm, and it's less intense."
What aids weight loss, gives you energy, prevents disease, busts stress and boosts your mood? You already know - exercise. And studies show it amps up your sex life because it improves cardiovascular function and circulation. Weight training is a great sex-life booster - it naturally lifts levels of testosterone, which increases libido in both men and women.
Getting too comfortable with each other can make it difficult to ignite that spark. Wanting to spend 24/7 together can kill sexual intimacy. As can seeing your partner cutting his toenails. Spend some time apart and you'll reunite refreshed and ready for action. And remember, some things are meant to be private.
There's nothing wrong with grabbing some popcorn and settling in to watch The Notebook. But, surprise, surprise, Hollywood doesn’t offer the best relationship road map. Rom-coms leave us expecting a lots. Often we have a skewed idea of what sex is going to be like. It's not the grand gesture that makes a difference; it's the little things you do every day that create an environment of emotional intimacy that supports intimacy.