In a committed relationship, nothing hurts more, or is harder to recover from than infidelity. The subject of infidelity and cheating partners have been picked apart to a point of exhaustion and most statistics claim, -as a lot of people agree- that more men than women are prone to cheating on their partners.
Yes, we cannot deny that female infidelity exist, in fact some claim that it is on the rise, but this trend does not seem to garner as much attention as when it comes to the opposite sex. These days, nothing gets more tongues wagging and more eyebrows raised than the news that a celebrity has been unfaithful.
Jude Law, Jesse James, Tony Parker, and Tiger Woods are very good examples. But shouldn’t we consider the fact that these men only made the news because they g0t caught?
Generally, female infidelity is more damaging to a relationship. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying male infidelity can’t be harmful, but when a woman cheats, it is often the death knell to a couple’s relationship. I came across a story earlier today in Daily Punch Newspaper, about a man who was apparently convinced that his wife was unfaithful, so much so that he attacked the poor woman with hot iron leaving her with severe burns and stab wounds.
You’d think that that is enough to calm his demons, nope. Allegedly, after attacking his wife, he also murdered their son just to drive his point home. Well, if I’m an adulterous wife and I come across something like this, I’d immediately retrace my steps, cover my tracks and make absolutely sure that no evidence of my infidelity will ever be found out.
The truth is that, women have always lied about their sex lives. We’ve been taught to lie from childhood especially in a matter of things that are sexually-related. From the 16-year-old who swears to her father that she’s never been kissed, to the 23-year-old woman who states convincingly to the man, on the first date that she’s only ever had one sexual partner, we get better at lying to protect our virtue as we grow.
It is therefore obvious that while men might exaggerate their sexual conquests, the bigger liars are women. Why do women lie? Because we must, and because we can. In spite of apparent equality and a more sexually open society, we are still more harshly judged for our sex lives than men. I mean, can you imagine a leading female politician having an affair and her husband standing loyally by her?
Due to the fact that a woman’s infidelity can be hugely detrimental to the relationship and her life in general, I think it is safe to say that she would probably go an extra length to hide her secret affairs from her partner. Isn’t the fact that the late Hollywood actress, Farrah Fawcett succeeded in having a secret affair for eleven years without getting caught, proof that women really are capable of more than we think? In fact, the actress literally took that secret to the grave as the affair was only made public shortly after her death.
Yes, both sexes are prone to cheating, perhaps it’s true that more men do cheat, but the age old philosophical question applies here;
“If a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?”
So, the question is this, are men really more likely to cheat, or are women just better at hiding their indiscretions?
By Olamide Oni
Olamide is a sex/relationship writer and blogger.