It appears that black weddings can be marvelous celebrations of love, but only heterosexual love. After the wedding video surfaced of two members of Kappa Alpha Psi getting married, much of the black community was angry. Being gay can be tolerated by some, but it’s not to be flaunted or treated as a source of pride.
There were also some who felt that the whole thing was a slap in the face to the members of the fraternity. The colors chosen for the wedding and the decision by one of the grooms to throw up the Kappa sign led to a strong backlash from those who were concerned that it appeared that the wedding had been endorsed by the fraternity.
But is the reaction a representation of the homophobia in the black community? Would they have gotten this angry if a heterosexual couple had used the same colors? It’s really hard to tell.
One of the grooms appeared on the Tom Joyner Morning Show to talk about the wedding. We doubt that this is going to make anyone feel better about the situation, but here it is: It started as the Kappa Alpha Psi gay wedding that wasn’t really Kappa at all. But it was a gay wedding, all right. And let’s be real – the gay part is really what had everybody so up in arms.
See, the African American community has a big problem when it comes to having conversations about sexuality – especially same-sex sexuality. And when homosexuality infiltrates some of their storied institutions, like its fraternities and sororities, that’s when you have a serious uproar. And that’s what happened after Robert Brown and Nathanael Gay posted their wedding video on YouTube last month. Because Gay is a member of Kappa Alpha Psi fraternity; because the couple chose red and white (the fraternity’s colors) for their wedding palette and because Gay and his frat brothers were photographed throwing up the Kappa identifying “yo” symbol, many folks accused the couple of dishonoring the 101-year-old fraternity, which is headquartered here in Philly.
Gay went on the nationally syndicated Tom Joyner Morning Show this week to set the record straight: No, he said, his wedding had no affiliation with the Greek organization. Yes, he is a proud member of Kappa Alpha Psi, but he was thinking the color of love, not Kappa, when he and Brown chose the color scheme. Besides, the official Kappa colors are crimson and cream, not red and white, he said. “My husband and I were both wearing white tuxedos,” Gay told Joyner.