Men and women have attractions for each other. It is however a common practice for men to always make the first advances. This has posed the question on whether it is right and proper for women to also make the first move.
Kehinde Ajobiewe writes. A bugging question ladies do ask is, “Is it right for a lady to ask a guy out?” Well, since the beginning, man has always been the head of the family, and therefore should be responsible for initiating a relationship. And even the Holy Bible says, “he that finds a wife finds a good thing…”, and not the other way round. Because of this, most women often find it difficult to approach the opposite sex when they are attracted to them.
Rather, they prefer to suffer so much heartache when the men they are attracted to do not even notice them, not to talk of asking them out. In the Western world, people don’t see anything wrong with a lady asking a guy she admires out on a date, even if it means seducing him.
But in a country like ours, where so much is attached to a lady valuing her pride and what have you, any lady that approaches a guy first on a date is often tagged a prostitute or a woman with no pride at all. But inasmuch as ladies do like it when guys ask them out on dates, some still get tempted to make the first move when the attraction becomes too strong. Stephanie, on her part, says: “I have told many guys that I was interested in them, and I have been rejected more times than anyone I know. For me, I just couldn’t sit still until I let it out".
Mrs. Toyin Smart, a married mother of two, said it is not right for a lady to approach a man first with the intention of professing her love for him. “The best thing a lady can do if she is attracted to a man is to warm her way into his heart by doing things that will make the man notice her. And when she eventually does that, it is left to him to approach her,” she said.
But above all, there is nothing like praying to God to give you the man of your dream, who will approach you first for a relationship, and also love and cherish you for the rest of your life.