I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years now. We live together and both work full-time. He has a great family and our families like both of us and both of us together.
Well, my sex life sucks. Normally you hear men complain about women or their wives not giving it up. Well in this instance it’s completely the other way around. We have a 7 year age difference. He’s 30 and I’m 23. He’s never been married nor does he bare any children (other qualities that attracted me to him).
Well, when it comes to sex, we speak a totally different language. I’m a very sexual and affectionate person. I love to kiss, touch, etc. Basically do things that people in love and relationships do. Well he’s not into any of that. When it comes to kissing, he’s a pecker. When it comes to touching, he doesn’t. I’m an attractive woman so I’ve asked numerous of times is he still attracted to me, and he says yes, but I couldn’t tell from our sex life.
Let me give you two scenarios before we have sex or I attempt to have sex. I’ll ask if he wants to and he’ll make that, “I don’t care” face. What person do you know does that? Then he’ll be like, “I’m watching TV” or, “I’m tired,” and it takes me getting upset for him to be like, “Oh, alright then,”.
Next scenario, we’ll be in bed or on the couch and I’ll initiate by kissing or touching on him and he’s ready in a flash, but when it comes to turning me on or getting me in the mood he does nothing. He expects me to just be ready like that. I tell him that I’m a woman and you have to get me in the mood. It always falls upon deaf ears, so needless to say that I have to use some hand action for myself, then it goes down and 5 minutes later it’s over. I then look at him like let’s go at it again, and he’ll be like, “Let me rest.” I have needs also.
Everything else is okay in our relationship except our sex lives. I need your advice. Should sex be a reason to stay or leave a relationship?