I’m a 27-year old woman. My issue is pretty complex and I need some unbiased insight on what to do!
Basically, I met the man of my dreams - intelligent, witty, sensitive, and caring. We met when he was in my city 5 years ago and ever since then, what began as a casual sexual relationship turned serious. From the beginning, I knew he was involved and living with someone, but after he confided in me that he was unhappy in his relationship, I never considered ending it. I wanted to be there for him.
Basically after years went by, he ended up marrying the woman he was living with - only God knows why! We continued our relationship even after his marriage. I accepted his choices and continued to enjoy his company.
Five months ago I found out I was pregnant. I thought I had taken the precautions, but obviously something went wrong. After a lot of consideration, I decided that I was going to go through with the pregnancy and prepare myself for motherhood. My baby’s father wasn’t as supportive when I told him the news and he told me various reasons why I shouldn’t go through with the pregnancy. Regardless of what he said, I decided that I was going to do what I wanted and he eventually came around.
Here comes the issue – his wife is also pregnant. I’m not sure how this happened because he reassured me that they were not sleeping together. Anyways, he seems nonchalant about the whole thing. I’m not sure what to do- I’m not completely positive that his wife’s baby is his, but I don’t want to rule out the possibility. I want him to be there for his future daughter with me, but I’m not sure if he’ll be able to give my child the time and care she deserves.
Please, I need some words of wisdom!