I am a 24-year-old young lady. I started dating my ex-boyfriend in 2010 and we recently called it quits. Before I broke up with him, he told me that he used a charm on me which would prevent me from getting married to any other man except for him.
The issue now is, since we broke up, any time I try to date someone, it does not work out. I am confused and heartbroken, I don’t know what to do.
Naij, please help me.
– Miss Confused
Dear Miss Confused,
First, you need to consider the fact that your problem could be psychological. Your ex says you would not be able to be with anybody except him, and you believed him, thus, your state of mind now seems to be affecting every relationship you go into. He could just be lying and trying to manipulate you, in which case you need to take charge of your life. Do NOT let him win. If you are no longer interested in him, then be determined to move on and it will happen.
You could also be having relationship problems because you may still be in love with that ex. If you are, then you need to face that possibility and deal with it. There is no way you can move on to future relationships if you are still holding on to your past.
Finally, if he really DID put some kind of charm on you, then you should talk to a cleric or your religious leader and have him/her advise you on what steps to take to cleanse yourself.
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