Okay, we get feeling crazy about a guy/girl right away, but how to do you know if you’re really in love? Experts break it down for us.
1. You’re Invested in His/Her Happiness
You’re really in love when you’re willing to put his/her happiness above your own, like skipping a movie that you want to see to stay home and help him/her get over a bad day.
2. You Want Them to Branch Out
That means you want them to find his own challenges and grow as a person. If you just want them to stay the same and not have any cool adventures, it’s not love.
3. You’re Cool With The Differences
Sure, if he’s a horrible dresser or she could use some kissing tips, obviously you’ll want to change that. But if you’re okay knowing that he’s obsessed with Jay-Z’s music and you’re more indie, or that you have different political views and can look beyond it, that’s love.
4. You Can Admit Your Shortcomings…
We know, we know-it sucks to acknowledge that you have a weak area or two. But if you can admit them to your guy/girl and actually want to work on them (starting to be on time for things, picking your battles, etc.), you’re golden.
5. …And Can Live With Theirs
Everybody has less than desirable qualities. You’re definitely in love if you can accept that he’ll be grumpy after his team loses a game or know that she sometimes loses his cool over minor stuff (provided he/she is willing to work on it).
6. You’re Into All of Him
In the beginning of a relationship, you’re almost always crazy-hot for each other. But if you’re just as hot for him even after you know about his weird foot rash, that’s a good sign.
7. You Could See Yourself Having Kids With Them
Okay, not everyone wants to have kids, and we get that. If you have thought about having a family…someday, and suddenly find yourself thinking about what your kids would look like or how he’d be as a father or she’d be as a mother, you’re definitely hooked.