October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month. So, how can you support a loved one with an illness? Here are five suggestions:
1. Learn to communicate with your doctor and loved ones. Talk with your doctors on a regular basis so you can be informed of how to help your loved one deal with his illness. When you're at home, get into the habit of listening to your loved one and giving him advice on ways that he can feel better.
2. Take advantage of all assistance available. Join self-help groups that teaching coping mechanisms. Support groups are also a great place to learn to manage fears and worries.
3. Take it one step at a time. Do not try to do everything at the same time. It will only make the situation more difficult. Instead, delegate some responsibilities to others.
4. Remain hopeful and positive. Hope that things will get better. It is impossible to predict the future, but remaining positive and upbeat is a distraction from the fear. Also, never underestimate the power of prayer; it is a great way to manage fear.
5. Focus on the good things in your life. Remind your loved one of the good things happening in his life. This will help the person focus on the positives instead of the illness.
If you still have trouble coping after using these tips, seek the services of a counselor or clergyman that can lead you in the right direction.