Being in a relationship does not mean that you will never have any cause to quarrel. It is generally said that couples strengthen their relationship from quarrel, argument and misunderstanding.
There is also no doubt that relationship and arguments are inseparable. Therefore spouses should not shy away from their misunderstandings in order to maintain a healthy relationship.
Below are 15 things you should not say whenever you are in an argument with a Nigerian woman.
1. You always let me down
This is a dangerous statement to utter especially when she does not show up for that family moment with friends. The word 'always' implies fault and that she can never learn from it.
2. Why are you shouting?
Asking any woman why she is shouting shows she is making noise in your ears. This simple but rhetorical question you asked could easily trigger her anger.
3. It is Okay!
If it is okay, then why are you having the argument? Telling a woman it is ok during an argument is like you shutting her off. The result of this utterance is usually an ugly scene.
4. I have heard
Please what did you hear? Is it the part the woman is blaming you for the argument or when you are trying to justify yourself? Never make the mistake of uttering ‘I’ve heard’ to a Nigerian woman in an argument.
5. Calm down
Although the word is to calm her nerve but during an argument the word ‘calm down’ works magic in its opposite usage. The woman believes that when you use that phrase, she has lost control of her emotions.
Uttering whatever in an argument is like popping a woman's anger. At this time she could take a decision you both could regret afterwards.
7. You can do whatever you like
When you tell an angry woman to do whatever she likes, it only implies that the man is ready to experience his worst nightmare. Because to her the statement shows that you do not care.
8. Why are you being emotional
This expression during an argument will only cause you more explanation, since most women are naturally emotional. For you to utter such words means she cannot control her emotions.
8. Let me talk
Whenever a man says 'let me talk' in an argument, it simply means the woman's has not been communicating. In other words, he is trying to remind her that she has been blabbing?
9. It is really not a big deal
Using it is not a big deal in an argument simply means she is overreacting on something that is meaningless. This statement usually has the exact opposite effect.
10. Can we talk about this later?
This simply implies that you are hiding something away from her. Her answer will automatically be a bold No! Because when you ask for more time, she believes you want to play on her intelligence.
11. Your wahala is too much
That is when you make her more angry because you already termed it as her frequent habit. Meanwhile no woman likes to be at the receiving end in any argument.
12. What do you want me to say?
This is obvious that the man is trying to be defensive here. Most women, whether guilty or not in any argument will always want you to explain yourself and say sorry.
Keeping quiet or ignoring any woman in an argument is the worst thing you can ever do. She believes your silence simply means she is on her own.
Is good to laugh but laughing at what any woman says during an argument could cause serious damage than you ever imagine.
15. You are wrong
Never ever say a woman is wrong. They are never wrong in an argument because they will always have what to say to defend themselves.