I would love a third party opinion on this. I am a 33-year-old man and I spent most of my time in the church and playing sports growing up.
This was my mom and dad’s way of keeping me and my brothers out of the streets. I lived a very sheltered life and didn’t really know how much my parents sacrificed until I came of age myself. I am the middle child and I was always a little different from my brothers.
About two years ago and I met this beautiful brown skinned woman who grew up outside the city. She’s very poised, exposed and worldly. She’s definitely a free spirit and I admire so many things about her. I believe that she’s mostly attracted to my stability and need for structure.
The difference in dynamics work until we get to the sexual realm of our relationship. I feel that certain things are unsavory and unnecessary. When we are intimate she says filthy things that don’t turn me on at all. She wants me to choke her and slap her across her face and she’s very into public indecency. For example we were driving out one day to see some of my old friends and she forcibly hooked me up while I was driving.
I can admit that I was intrigued by this at first, but it’s a little too much for my taste. I know that her worldly attitude probably has a lot to do with the sense of sexual liberation but there’s a time and place for everything….I feel. I must say that I’m not a prude or scared of an aggressive woman. I’m just a guy who loves intimacy and feeling a deep closeness with my woman without the extra stuff.
I think it’s takes something meaningful away from the connection. Is this going to be a problem in the future or is this something that can be worked on?